OMG!!!!!!>-< am i the only one w/ this problem

[theprophet05]

...omg im such fool...why is it that i cant talk to any girl who isnt into anime??? am i the only one with this problem...the last person i was with said i was too weird...and left.....AARRGGHHHH...>~<.....

[Dreamerdgh]

Shyness goes away only if your forced to adapt, don't be afraid of being called weird, we are all weird. Thats why I think the school system in America is so great, it forces you to speak with people with different backgrounds and develop(College) and emphasizes more than just book learning. Social interaction is every bit as important and IQ.

[Chat Le Blanc]

Heh, if anime is the only thing you'll be able to talk about because of your shyness, I'd advice trying to find different topics ;)
If you know the girl a little, you could ask her about her hobbies, how her school went, what she did today or something?
I don't know, but I know the feeling of shyness, only advice is, try not to be shy :p
try to think what you could ask the girl that SHE could talk about (saves you the talking :p)

Goodluck prophet

[theprophet05]

ya thats the thing...i do...but usually those kinds of converstions come to an end quickly....*sigh*....why is it harder to talk to girls on the eastcoast than on the west????

[Fanin]

YES!!!! I'M NOT ALONE!!!
I don't have much luck talking non-otaku girls neither, same thing with guys.
Since I know a lot of anime, it's hard to talk about anything else.
From my experience, to have a nice friendly conversation, first is to have common interest, and a similar point of view. Otherwise, the conversation will often end in 'disaster'.

[theprophet05]

lol what wee need to do is get all the girls on this site and meet them one after the other....or go to japan...and live there.......soon soon ill accomplish my goal of going to japan

[Dreamerdgh]

Sort of off topic, but out of all the places I have traveled, I loved Japan best. Everyone must visit Japan at least once. Turning Japaneesa :)

[PinkNekoGirl]

... I can't talk to people who know about cars, it drives me nuts listing to something I don't know or even care about. I know more about anime and RPG games then anything else. ^_^ But other then that, yeah... I would help if you know about what she was into and talked 'bout whatever... As much as I hate to admit it... *takes in a breath an cowers* Anime isn't everything-BAAAAAAAAAAAAAH! *runs to the bathroom and brushes her teeth* I can't believe I said that! *pours an entire bottle of mouthwash in and gurgles* Gagagagagaaaah! *spits and wipes mouth* Baaaaaaaad!!

[Viramz]

Aaah yes, the dream of every otaku, no not that one, the other one, you know, your favourite anime girl waking up next to you every morning. lol
It's better than doing all that shit just to get lead. AAAAAAAAah why aren't there any girls like that around???

[NvadrApple]

I sort-of have this problem too. l am so into anime and games that it is so much easier to talk about them. I mean, I don't know anything about sports and I know less about cars...oh where oh where are all the otakus??? *sigh*


lol what wee need to do is get all the girls on this site and meet them one after the other....or go to japan...and live there.......soon soon ill accomplish my goal of going to japan :p :) :D

[Dreamerdgh]

The obvious solution to all your problems. Watch anime about subjects you don't know about. Initial D for cars, Slam Dunk for BBall, Hikaru no Go for games. Know you really have something to talk about :). No wonder people think I'm nuts LOL.

[theprophet05]

but now that i think about it i dont think i could be happy with someone who doesnt appreciate anime...yaknow...i know alot about other things like swords and misc history with a bit of comp info...but nothing u can really talk about with a girl...and i have a nasty habit of wanting serious conversations/debates....alot of girls dont think about alot of stuff that i wanna talk about and i just cant fake something that they wanna talk about....i ususually end up just saying short choppy comments like "yeah" and "ok"...and starting is half the battle...i know im half the problem but geez half the time i dont even know what to talk about so i know what to "study" up on...and the direct approch that works in L.A. doesnt work here...dun tried

[Viramz]

You know, it's a universal problem, man and woman just don't communicate the same way. I think it hase something to do with the diferense in interest, it's just wurse with otaku, because they (most woman) don't know anything about what we know all about. Thus resulting in an utter awkward sillence..........

[Avychan]

I don't really have this problem, because I have a lot of interests. Video games, music, movies, comedy, fine dining, design, math and sciences, history, lots of stuff; so I don't just have to talk about anime. My advise would be to broaden your horizons. Find other things that interest you, not just anime. The only problem I'm coming across now is that since I've watched so much of it, I've picked up quite a few japanese phrases and words, and have a tendency to use them in everyday speech, which confuses just about anyone I talk to (even other anime fans, if they haven't picked up on the japanese as well).

[Fanin]

Anime isn't everything-BAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!
*AnimeFanatic takes 99999 damage* <Overkilled>
*initiating eternal depress mode*

[juan899]

It's really not that hard you just ask them what their into then ask them stuff about it <.<

[toyota]

Accept the fact that you're a nerd and the best date you'll have is with your right hand and a bottle of lotion.:p

OR

Excel in your academic studies, get a high paying job and then buy yourself a trophy wife.:D

[Bubblemonkey]

Lol. Seriously though, Anime isn't everything. The reason you have problems relating to anything non-anime related is probably because you don't expand your horizons to other things in the world. The more you've experienced, the more you'll be able to relate to, thus the more you'll be able to talk about. It's as simple as that.

No matter how shy you are, if you're able to talk to someone about a topic that you have some experience with (no matter what it is) or can relate to, then the conversations will usually take care of themselves. Like Avychan said, take regular breaks from anime and explore other possible interests (preferably ones outside the house or away from anything anime/video game related - anime and vidgame fanatics seem to have the same problem of getting so immersed in their hobby that they lose the ability to talk about anything else).

[TaronWarrior]

I used to have the problem before high school. I guess when you're forced to deal with other people (projects, team sports, etc) you learn to adapt. Sports DEFINITELY helped. You just get used to it.

[Knifes]

Lol. Seriously though, Anime isn't everything. The reason you have tproblems relating to anything non-anime related is probably because you don't expand your horizons to other things in the world. The more you've experienced, the more you'll be able to relate to, thus the more you'll be able to talk about. It's as simple as that.

No matter how shy you are, if you're able to talk to someone about a topic that you have some experience with (no matter what it is) or can relate to, then the conversations will usually take care of themselves. Like Avychan said, take regular breaks from anime and explore other possible interests (preferably ones outside the house or away from anything anime/video game related - anime and vidgame fanatics seem to have the same problem of geting so immersed in their hobby that they lose the ability to talk about anything else).

nice... Bubblemonkey has the right of thinking here... immersing yourself into other activities will allow you to widen your social conversations. :D:p Although there are some people that and blow off a "mature" person who likes anime as something "weird/childish" without any real reason. :( But hey... why get to know a person like that eh? Their loss by not accepting who you are... :D:p

Like I wouldn't seriously date a person, if my date didn't like/accept anime too :p ... but just be friends with them, while talking about different subjects... than okie dokie with me. :D:p The least you could you do though is talk about "normal" subjects though. Just do more than chilling out with anime...

...by doing more... you can say more :p

[hyde69]

Accept the fact that you're a nerd and the best date you'll have is with your right hand and a bottle of lotion.:p

OR

Excel in your academic studies, get a high paying job and then buy yourself a trophy wife.:D
how come he's a neard just cos he sweats anime xD
is like saying poeple that is into rap and raps in school all day long are concider nerds just cos all they do is rap. :p
i suggest you if you want to get to know another person non otaku the beast way would be by making friends and get to know them by talking about different things such as anime, music, sports, going out, friends and family. and after than you might be able to score with one of your friends sister or female friends :p
i never had any problem like that
in fact one of the reasons i got into anime was by a friend that got me into liking it.. :)

[Desmonthes]

al la la la, i have no problem talking to girls and yet i still have no gf :p u_u

[Zapper216]

I voted this: i cant talk to any T~T


anime and vidgame fanatics seem to have the same problem of getting so immersed in their hobby that they lose the ability to talk about anything else).

I never could talk about anything even before I got in to anime T.T T.T

[NvadrApple]

You know, it's a universal problem, man and woman just don't communicate the same way. I think it hase something to do with the diferense in interest, it's just wurse with otaku, because they (most woman) don't know anything about what we know all about. Thus resulting in an utter awkward sillence..........Oooooo....you're lucky I don't slap you. :p I think more girls should get into anime! I know I'm working on some of my friends...but I still want to know where all those otaku males are where I live... :D

[AnimeWerewolf]

* cough * well i guess i'm a bit shy in real life that and rather anti-social too a terrible combination for meeting people especially girls ! >.<
as for my interests i have a few main subjects that i excel in outside of those i'm a concrete wall and sadly with a similar personality ! >.>

1. Anime ( well duh ! ) :p
2. Music ( Metal , Speed , Thrash , Gothic , ect ... ) :D
3. Horror ( everything from the Ancient Classics to the more recent Gore Feasts ! ) :eek:

and these are my sub-categories of interest in which i can also hold a conversation with someone for a little while atleast ! ^^

4. Sci-Fi ( I absolutely love Blade Runner and Dune ! gah , i know i'm a total geek ! ) ;)
5. Comics ( Golden age to Modern goodies ! bah , i'm a nerd too ... ) :o
6. Weapons ( yeah i'm also an American Psycho ! ) :rolleyes:

now any girls share similar interest ? ^^' but no neko's pls ! :mad: umm , well on second thought ok maybe neko's too ! :D;):p

[adun50]

BubbleMoneky made a valid point. you have to expand on your horizons. learn some new stuff and such. during high school was mainly into anime and playing gmaes. but once i got my license I got more into cars (and no not also because I watched Initial D) and now I'm even part of a car club.

but generally you have to find something to talk about to girls, and it shouldn't be anime all the time. you should talk about something they are interested in, or even something you both have interests in.

[hyde69]

but generally you have to find something to talk about to girls, and it shouldn't be anime all the time. you should talk about something they are interested in, or even something you both have interests in.
and i know what that can be.. :D
Sex! :rolleyes:

[Dreamerdgh]

I guess this is not really my bag since I talk to everyone, but I do think the more you try and talk to others, all others, the better you get. You know that old saying, Practice makes Perfect.

[SERJ]

and i know what that can be.. :D
Sex! :rolleyes:
damn! some things better DO, than talk about...:cool: (said virgin)

[Dreamerdgh]

Nothing wrong with being a virgin, just don't die as one!

[TaronWarrior]

Nothing wrong with being a virgin, just don't die as one!
Bah, even then, sex is overrated. And sweaty/slippery. Bleh.

[alucard81]

al la la la, i have no problem talking to girls and yet i still have no gf :p u_u
me too...... problems arise when i try to make small talk with the girl i like.... duhz that is like.......
but i can chit chat and crap abt stuff all day if given the chance with the girls i know.... quite a few of them are into gaming (I know one who plays Onimusha and another is into Dynasty Warriors)....
one thing i learnt is to let them take the conversation to places dun try to make topics on ur own cos u are not their girl frens and thus the stuff they discuss with them are off limits (dun try it cos if u do u might end u becoming one of their chums and wun become potential dates)

[dots]

* cough * well i guess i'm a bit shy in real life that and rather anti-social too a terrible combination for meeting people especially girls ! >.<
as for my interests i have a few main subjects that i excel in outside of those i'm a concrete wall and sadly with a similar personality ! >.>

1. Anime ( well duh ! ) :p
2. Music ( Metal , Speed , Thrash , Gothic , ect ... ) :D
3. Horror ( everything from the Ancient Classics to the more recent Gore Feasts ! ) :eek:

and these are my sub-categories of interest in which i can also hold a conversation with someone for a little while atleast ! ^^

4. Sci-Fi ( I absolutely love Blade Runner and Dune ! gah , i know i'm a total geek ! ) ;)
5. Comics ( Golden age to Modern goodies ! bah , i'm a nerd too ... ) :o
6. Weapons ( yeah i'm also an American Psycho ! ) :rolleyes:

now any girls share similar interest ? ^^' but no neko's pls ! :mad: umm , well on second thought ok maybe neko's too ! :D;):p

*starts ticking the checklist*
1. anime ---> dumb qus
2. music---> yes i love music
3. horror---> well i like horror movies... i love screaming my head off while watching them more... and i think werewolves are cute...

4. Sci-fi---> well i read a lot too... but i just dun restrict myself to sci-fri
5. comics---> do manga count....
6. Weapons---> i have 7 katanas at home... so well..

added incentives---> i'm not a neko... i'm a usagi.... hmmm does that satisfy your furry fetish???? I hereby send my application to aww....

j/k....
i'm not into yaoi!


anyway well i dun really have problems communicating with non-otakus.... well there are times when these so called non-otakus starts asking me about anime.... that's the only time where i kinda get out of hand and start talking non-stop about anime.... Well i've converted lots of my friends from non-otakus to anime freaks....

[Shybal Noom]

lol
...havent we been here before?! ya...!!! we did!!! with para and the fact that he tried to impress a girl with ddr and/or tecken 5 or something and somehow crashed and burned in a HUGE ball of fire and light...
lol
ummm... please dont take that one too seriously... (im looking at you para!!!)
anyways... you just need a little motivation, luck, and charm... although it took me acouple of slaps to get the charm right...
lol
but, boy, when i got, things just went smoothly. like compliments sometimes seem stupid, but they score brownie points!
lol
hmmm... ived dated a girl who disliked anime... dated her for about 4 months or so. we both we totally fine with it... i mean, its kinda like a hobby so... what can anyone say...?
well... ive said my piece, execpt!... wait... i got nothing

-4 lol's in this post-

[Xebi]

I'm not really into that problem, I'm just shy.
Not a big talker but I don't have much problems with starting a little conversation, as long as the other one starts :p

Sometimes I try and start a conversation so I try to ask something that I know he/she interests.
Mostly it works, but the duration of the conversation relies on the other persons talkativity.

[Dreamerdgh]

Bah, even then, sex is overrated. And sweaty/slippery. Bleh.
Wet and slippery? YES, Overrated? NEVER!!!!!!! Now whats come after 9 months may be overrated LOL.

[S&T Kawaii Love]

To me it's kinda different. I rather have people I like talk about anime/manga then people I don't like. I wouldn't want to talk with some jerk about my fav anime. I can talk with anyone very nicely. Think you have to extend your horizon and talk about other things besides anime/manga more. Most otaku's are a bit shy to talk about their fav things to people. Unless they can trusted are friends with them. That counts for me though

[Adust Wanderer]

I can talk to people about most stuff besides anime/video games/ manga. I talk about food and stuff. But I'm more of a introvent and don't really talk much [Usually when I don't really know the topic, I will just listen].

However, I think that I still need to widen my horizon. I have reduced the time spent on anime and I think it helps.

Yet, there are cases when we seriously have nothing to talk to each other. :D

[theprophet05]

Bah, even then, sex is overrated. And sweaty/slippery. Bleh.
BLASSPHEMY *smacks tarron* GO WASH YOUR MOUTH OUT!!!!! really it all depends on who, how , when , and where...it could be the best exp of ur life or the worst depending on these variables...unfortunatly only girls i can pick up are at anime cons....and like 3 from hs...but it always is empty since it doesnt last long...this is all in reverse order of how i read it... but yeah i have alot of interaction with other people and stuff like that im in the blasted army and i work customer service...for an automations shop(computer techy) and im fit...almost got a 6 pak =P... i do get out and i know alot of things....its just i preffer to have a conversation and thing where one person talks and one listens...tahts called a lecture...and then i have this saying "actions not words" i preffer to do something that they think is funn than to i guess the other factor is that most of the girls here dont live in what i call "the real world" and just live from day to day on the east coast...they do everything jsut because the "supposed to"....dunno but the majority of girls that ive accually talked to...and asked didnt have a specific job choice or it was a general feild...ie they didnt know...and i cant chitchat...i cant talk to non otaku but the conversations arnt very intersting unless its anime, army,swords/misc weaponry, situations events, and about people...i know im half the problem but geez i guess im going for the wrong girls because most of the otaku girls know what they want and how,when and where to go...they have an idea what they want......GRRR....im gonna type more but i hafta go now.......but once again...SLAP YOUR SELF FOR SAYING THAT CRAP TARON.....


Oooooo....you're lucky I don't slap you. :p I think more girls should get into anime! I know I'm working on some of my friends...but I still want to know where all those otaku males are where I live... :D
fort bragg northcarolina....or bfe (bumf***egypt)


Accept the fact that you're a nerd and the best date you'll have is with your right hand and a bottle of lotion.:p

OR

Excel in your academic studies, get a high paying job and then buy yourself a trophy wife.:D
geez guy im may not be a stud...or anything but i do have enough pride that ill accually find someone i like and marry or do anything of that nature because of my money...thats just low >~<

*AnimeFanatic takes 99999 damage* <Overkilled>
*initiating eternal depress mode*
lmao i know the feeling

[Dreamerdgh]

OK Prophet, don't mean to pick on you, but you seem to have a lot of free time, go to college and get your degree, become a officer, and then you can afford whatever you want :). Oh, and women, girls, love men in uniform :).
Edit, Men love women in unfiorm also, Hubba Hubba :)

[Xebi]

Wet and slippery? YES, Overrated? NEVER!!!!!!! Now whats come after 9 months may be overrated LOL.
Mind if I'd agree with TaronWarrior?
I think sex is highly overrated.

The irony, that mostly its the guys who talk about sex so highly (mostly, not only)
Yet its the girls who experience the most and fullest pleasure of it.
While guys just feel some fun in their genitalians and perhaps have fun in their pervy minds, that they finaly touched some female breasts.

Sorry for my perhaps harsh comment.
But seeing people speak so highly about sex and love, like its the only thing that really matters and should really be included in life.
Some seeking desperate for people to fulfill those desperate requests of them.

I know out of experience that its possible to live without love and sex.
Perhaps that people get so highly addicted to it once they've had it, like masturbation.
But that doesn't mean you should state it as a fact. (like some do)

Thanks for listening to my meaningless ranter.

Greetings,
The Black Cat

[S&T Kawaii Love]

The irony, that mostly its the guys who talk about sex so highly (mostly, not only)
Yet its the girls who experience the most and fullest pleasure of it.
While guys just feel some fun in their genitalians and perhaps have fun in their pervy minds, that they finaly touched some female breasts.

Female breasts 0_0; *drool* :D. Well I think both will feel the pleasure of it. The pleasure will degree though of you do it lots of times in a week.



Sorry for my perhaps harsh comment.
But seeing people speak so highly about sex and love, like its the only thing that really matters and should really be included in life.
Some seeking desperate for people to fulfill those desperate requests of them.

I know out of experience that its possible to live without love and sex.
Perhaps that people get so highly addicted to it once they've had it, like masturbation.
But that doesn't mean you should state it as a fact. (like some do)

hmmm it's possible to live without love and sex. But it's not for me. I just need it once a while. I think you do too ^^ maybe when you get alil bit older, then you become the biggest perv ever *Kisses Xebi's lips tenderly*
well bye ^_^/

[dots]

it's just too bad that guys cant seem to stop thinking about sex....
which could be a good thing since without this contant perverted state of mind
sex wun sell and the world's population will be halved...

[theprophet05]

hmm i think this is a problem...now i really didnt want this to be a sex thread ya know...it was more directed at tips and more in general for the females to let the guys who are struggling a bit...but yah i know that anime isnt everything and sex isnt everything...to me the most important thing is to protect what i hold dearest...which is freinds currently...(obviously havent found a girl yet)


OK Prophet, don't mean to pick on you, but you seem to have a lot of free time, go to college and get your degree, become a officer, and then you can afford whatever you want :). Oh, and women, girls, love men in uniform :).
Edit, Men love women in unfiorm also, Hubba Hubba :)
i am currently in school..but the army doesnt neccissarily let you go to "college" i need to get a special leave granted to do that...and then i only get 6 months to last me like 4-6 years of my enlistment...as for being an officer i really dont think i could do that...officers doo too much paper work and i have a short attention span...id fall asleep too easily..thats why im going special forces...and ya i do have alot of spare time since i have like a nill life...kinda depressing but if you think about it most military people dont...generally most single soldiers/paratroopers...stay single for the duration of their enlistment...or the get what we call "contract marragaes" this is where a soldier gets married for the monitary benifits of being married and gets to move out of the barracks(barracks sucks) or when they are about to get out the army they get married because they are going home...now at the bases..they have a whole lot of "jailbait" so most of the single soldiers dont go out because they dont feel like getting arrested...yaknow that kinda ruins our day...that problem is esspecially bad around ft bragg because its like 10 guys to 1 female for like a 50 mile radius...its a huge "sausage fest"..but off that topic...if i could go to an accuall college i would but they charge and arm and a leg to go to school and i work from 5:30am to about 8:30 or till 430pm...with periodic breaks inbetween...and on top of that the schools around here dont teach the subjects i want to or need to study...duke's it dep isnt very good and they dont teach jap. or how to speak english...but its not all bad w/o alot of females the vast majority of the "baby mama drama" is cut short


Mind if I'd agree with TaronWarrior?
I think sex is highly overrated.

The irony, that mostly its the guys who talk about sex so highly (mostly, not only)
Yet its the girls who experience the most and fullest pleasure of it.
While guys just feel some fun in their genitalians and perhaps have fun in their pervy minds, that they finaly touched some female breasts.

Sorry for my perhaps harsh comment.
But seeing people speak so highly about sex and love, like its the only thing that really matters and should really be included in life.
Some seeking desperate for people to fulfill those desperate requests of them.

I know out of experience that its possible to live without love and sex.
Perhaps that people get so highly addicted to it once they've had it, like masturbation.
But that doesn't mean you should state it as a fact. (like some do)

Thanks for listening to my meaningless ranter.

Greetings,
The Black Cat
sex isnt everything...it plays a key role but it isnt everything...personally i like it, i love it, and i want more of it, but all i really want is someone to be in love with that i can have a mutual want and desire to be with...pretty much the same stuff you see in a romance comedy anime....all that mushy stuff...=P

[Dreamerdgh]

OK Proph, wait until your enlistment is up and then use the GI bill to finish college up. Go to a college where women outnumber men. I know the best city for that is Key West Florida.

[theprophet05]

ya see thats the plan but i wanna go to UCLA which has a 8/2 female to male ratio...and its the #6 tech school in the us
with that said it also supports people who wanna learn how to speak jap. and it teaches people how to speak english...so its great...i just gotta get there...lmao ^^
the only thing is...is i have this thing called the asian persuasion...and im "in love with ayumi hamasaki" omg she is soo cute =P (hmm i think i might have spelled her name wrong